Turn up the Romance on Valentine's Day
Posted: Thursday, January 31, 2008
by Cheryl Moeller
Momlaughs
A Romance Quiz
Are the following statements true or false?
1. Romance is primarily for the unmarried.
2. Romance lasts only during courtship.
3. Romance requires great expense and effort.
4. Only women need romance in a relationship.
5. Romance should always lead to sex.
6. Romance isn't a spiritual concept.
The correct answer to all the above statements is false.
Romance is a gift every married couple can give each other for a lifetime. It doesn't have to cost a great deal - imagination is far more important than price. Men, as well as women, can enjoy romance. It doesn't have to lead to sexual intercourse to be meaningful. It's a gift from God and it affects our inner selves; therefore, it has a spiritual dimension as well. Finally, it can last a lifetime if we make the effort.
How did you score? This is one exam you're allowed to take again. :)
This year for Valentines' Day, if you want to feel romantic, act romantic.
We encourage couples to experiment with the ninety-second hug. Here's how it works: for ninety seconds, one minute and a half, the two of you stand and hug each other.
Although wives often welcome the experiment, many husbands find it a bit awkward at first. Allow us to encourage you men: if you stick with it the entire ninety seconds you're going to discover just how much you really enjoy it. (One couple misunderstood the directions and tried to hug each other for ninety minutes each day. They admitted it was difficult at first, but now confess they really enjoy it. True story.)
The principle behind the hug is quite simple - if we act like we love and cherish our spouse, we will feel like we love and cherish our spouse. Often we have things the other way around. We wait until we feel affectionate before we act affectionate. Unfortunately that may mean waiting an entire lifetime.
In the Old Testament, Jacob loved and cherished Rachel. He had to work for Rachel's father seven years to receive her hand in marriage. Then he ended up having to work another seven years to finally marry her. Fourteen years seemed like only fourteen days. Learn from his example and watch how ninety seconds can seem like...far less than ninety seconds.
Marriage is For Better, For Worse and For Keeps
Bob and Cheryl Moeller have been married for 28 years and have 6 awesome kids. They have together co-authored two books on marriage. Bob is a pastor, a weekly TV show host, and speaks nationally with his marriage conference www.forkeepsconference.com. Cheryl is an outrageous comedian and columnist who enjoys speaking at parent's groups. Visit (check out their books and read some of Cheryl's comedy) her online blog at www.momlaughs.blogspot.com.
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More commentsThis is a great idea! Super article.Thanks so much for your comment.
So true!!! Romance is still alive!!!!!Thank you so much for reading my article and taking the time to leave a comment!
Enjoyed this article and the practical way in which to begin demonstrating love again.I am glad you enjoyed the article. Thanks for your insight also.
Joye This was a great article. A wonderful reminder with Valentines Day coming soon.Thanks Joye. You're such an encouragement.
A really great article....loved the 90 second experiment.......gotta try that !Your comment meant a lot to me. Thanks for reading and leaving the comment.
I love it! The 90-second hug is great...this is a great reminder for anyone with Valentine's Day coming up - not just a day for the "young love birds", but for those who are married, and have been married a while. Planning on seizing the day and acting romantic, whether I feel like it or not = )...I hope your Valentines' Day with your spouse is your best one yet! Thanks for taking the time to share.
What a great reminder to slow down and think about our spouse and reconnect! Thanks for the encouragement.Enjoy your Valentines' Day. Thanks for your encouragement also in leaving a comment.
Really enjoyed the article, simple tips and easy to try. Great point about acting like we cherish our spouse, how true!Thanks for sharing with us a good point also.
You are so right on Cheryl,I can say that having been married to the same guy for 32 years now. Thank you, hope to see more articles from you.Congrats on your 32 years! That's an amazing example and model to all.
Hi Cheryl, so true! God created Romance -it's man who perverted it! Hugs are great, but my husband and I have joined the texting band wagon! We text love notes to eachother. One time was quite embarrasing when I accidentally pressed the speedail code to my daughter's phone! oops!!Thanks for the text note idea. It's important to keep in contact all day somehow, someway. Thanks for sharing your great thoughts.
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